We specialize in counseling for the trauma of infertility and its treatment, pregnancy loss, and assisted reproduction including IVF, inseminations, donor eggs, donor sperm, donor embryos, and gestational surrogacy. We know how challenging the family building journey can be. We have lived it ourselves. We can help you with the depression, anxiety, and relationship problems that go along with just trying to have a family. We can help you make decisions about what to do, where to do it, and when to do it.
Whatever your parenting journey looks like, you matter. We are on your side and we will walk the path with you. We both practice under the guidelines of the American Society for Reproduction Medicine (ASRM). These are the best practices in the field of infertility treatment. At partners (in)fertility, we welcome straight and LGBTQ couples and single parents. We want to be part of your family-building journey.
We also specialize in the trauma of pregnancy loss. We will be with you and your partner throughout the journey from grief, to recovery, to hope about your future. Things may be very dark for you right now. We will help the sunshine return to your life.
Infertility-Related Trauma and Pregnancy Loss Counseling
Dr. Deborah Simmons, PhD, LMFT
Dr. Deborah Simmons has provided specializing counseling for infertility-related trauma and pregnancy loss for more than 20 years. She works with fertility clinics, OB/GYN clinics, surrogacy agencies, and egg donor agencies around the country. She consults to the Center for Reproductive Medicine in Minneapolis. She loves helping people with decision-making about what path to choose to get to parenting. Dr. Simmons provides psychoeducation to all who seek to be parents, whether this is by using IUIs, IVF, donor eggs, donor sperm, donor embryos, or gestational surrogacy. She evaluates gestational carriers and egg donors. She offers clinical hypnosis, EMDR, cognitive behavioral therapy, couples therapy, and energy work. She is also working in the area of fertility preservation with women who have been diagnosed with cancer and with transgender men and women who wish to be parents.
Dr. Simmons is an active professional member of the American Society for Reproductive Medicine (ASRM); Resolve: the National Infertility Association; Fruitful Fertility; Parents Via Egg Donation; the European Society of Human Reproduction and Embryology (ESHRE); the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy; and the Minnesota Society of Clinical Hypnosis. She has written for Parents after Loss Support, Fertility Smarts, and Fruitful Fertility.
She received her PhD in family social science from the University of Minnesota, a Master’s degree in public administration from George Washington University, and a double major in international relations and political science from American University. She is the mother of two premature babies and a feisty veteran of months on pregnancy bedrest.
Marriage and Family Therapist
Debbie Fischer, M.A., LAMFT
Debbie Fischer, M.A., LAMFT, holds a master of arts in marriage and family therapy from St. Mary’s University of MN. After a 20 year career in human resources, where she worked for Target and Walt Disney World, and most recently as the director of HR for a legacy advertising agency in Minneapolis, she elected to return to school and change careers. The decision was driven by her heartbreaking, yet enlightening journey into parenthood. A bereaved mom, who lost 2 sons to stillbirth, and then struggled with secondary infertility and endured multiple rounds of fertility treatments, she felt called to help others who are faced with reproductive health challenges. A specialist in infertility, pregnancy loss, and alternative family building, Debbie works with couples and individuals who have suffered the devastating heartache, and trauma of pregnancy loss. She prepares straight and gay couples and single women and men who wish to pursue IUIs, IVF, donor eggs, donor sperm, donor embryos, and surrogacy. She works with fertility clinics, OB/GYN clinics, surrogacy agencies, and egg donor agencies around the country. She evaluates gestational carriers and egg donors. She is an active professional member of the American Society for Reproductive Medicine (ASRM), and Resolve: the National Infertility Association. She is affiliated with the Center for Reproductive Medicine in Minneapolis where she screens potential egg donors. Debbie is honored to be on the advisory board of Fruitful Fertility. She also facilitates Star Legacy’s virtual support group for bereaved parents, and is a past board member of Faith’s Lodge.
Pregnancy Loss Therapist
Lindsey M. Henke, MSW, LICSW, PMH-C.
Lindsey’s clinical specialty is working with mothers and their partners through the grief of infertility, perinatal loss, pregnancy after loss, and the postpartum period including parenting after reproductive trauma.
Lindsey has been providing clinical psychotherapy services to women and families since 2008. She specializes in grief and mental health struggles that often accompany reproductive trauma, and is a certified Perinatal Mental Health (PMH-C) provider with specific training in perinatal mood and anxiety disorders, pregnancy loss and pregnancy after loss.
She also provides training to other professionals in these areas, and is the Founder and Executive Director of Pregnancy After Loss Support, an online magazine and peer-to-peer support service.
She works with adults of all sexual & gender orientations, who experience trauma-related issues due to reproductive loss as well as anxiety, depression and anger as it relates to reproductive mental health and the transition to parenthood. Lindsey’s clients benefit from her advanced training in perinatal mood and anxiety disorders and her study of alternative healing practices, Dialectical Behavior Training (DBT), and treatment of trauma via Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART).
In her spare time Lindsey enjoys writing, hiking, and spending time with her two living children, husband, and dog, George.
Lindsey helps with the following concerns:
- Pregnancy loss – miscarriage, stillbirth, and infant death
- Grief & Loss
- Unexpected outcomes, fetal anomalies
- Pregnancy after loss
- Processing Reproductive Trauma / PTSD via ART
- Pregnancy and postpartum mental health issues including anxiety and depression
- Adjusting to parenthood and parenting issues
- Identity and life transition as they relate to parenthood
- Relationship issues
- Family-of-origin / childhood issues
Acupuncture, Arvigo ™, Reiki, and Nutrition
Amy DePoint L.Ac.
Amy DePoint L.Ac. knew what her life’s work was at a very young age. Collecting herbs and plants from the woods and meadows and reading all things that related to healing, she tried to help everyone and every animal that she knew. In 2005, she graduated from Northwestern Health Sciences University with a Masters in Oriental Medicine. Soon after, she decided to devote her practice to women’s health, in particular fertility, high risk pregnancy and birth. In 2014, after 9 years of owning and operating Heal Oriental Medicine, a women’s health and fertility clinic in Minneapolis and St. Paul, she went on a sabbatical to Los Angeles, California. She used this time to learn about women’s health from other ancient healing traditions. She also dove deep into studying the root cause of illness and hormone disruption from experts in a wide variety of specialties, all of whom push the envelope in their field and ask the hard questions about how the body works and how to optimize health and well-being. After a brief stay in Rochester, MN, she is now practicing back in the Twin Cities with partners (in)fertility.
Upon return to the metro area, she was able to reestablish connections with the area’s reproductive clinics and specialists. These relationships, along with the services she offers, allow Amy to guide people to their health and well-being goals and provide them with resources and insights. She has been trusted by the area’s leading fertility and birth professionals for over a decade to provide the best for their patients. These services include acupuncture and herbal medicine, Arvigo ™ Technique Maya Abdominal Therapy (ATMAT), Reiki, and coaching in areas of lifestyle, food and proper supplements, unique to each individual.
She also takes the wisdom from her studies and her life experiences – growing her own family through donor IUI and ICI cycles – to do fertility coaching world wide.
When she’s not working and getting way too wrapped up in gut health and estrogen pathways, she’s being a wife and a mom to two energetic kids, coercing those kids and wife to try her kitchen creations, food and medicinal, and running around in any green space she can find in her new home.